Technology and TV; and how they both negatively impact on Relationships, Friendships and Mental Health, how joining a commune seems like a good idea 

What has all this Technology done for us?..sweet FA, everybody is so connected by everything these days, but yet 1 in 3 people suffer from Depression or a serious Mental Health condition, there is a 6 month waiting list to speak to a Counsellor on the NHS and the Mental Health services are crying out for more funding, people’s levels of unhappiness are Higher now than during war time. Lets just stop and pause for a minute…

So what you have to ask yourself is, is any of this helping the Human Race? Whilst I agree that the Human Race is on a path of Modernity and that through History things have naturally evolved in order for society to efficiently run, I very much hesitate to accept that the changes in the last twenty years have had a positive impact on peoples lives as evidenced specifically by looking at studies of happiness, rates of suicide and the highest rates of mental Health Conditions the UK has ever witnessed.

In an age where if you havn’t got the latest I-Phone you are socially cast aside, but at the same token you are more concerned about said I-Phone that you forget the very human beings that surround you. You neither care for the moral implications of how the phone was put together, the lives that were lost during production of phone and the slave driving conditions that workers are put under…but no its more important that Santa delivers your I-Phone so you can be seen as ‘up on Technology’. I loathe these people.

I an age where I have to ask people to put their phones away at the table, when you have not met eachother for years but people are obsessed with the likes, shares and comments in this self absorbed world we live in, that they can’t spend more than an hour from their phone or a screen. 

I feel very sorry for those who lock themselves a way night after night pretending that the gaming world that they are a part of is, is real life. That they would rather participate on a game, than spend quality time person to person with Family and Friends. Its sad that we live in an age filled with such low self esteem and unhappiness.

Some days I just want off this World, with recent reports that Social Media (all forms) has a detrimental impact on Mental Health, that people believe the world that people post, when the sad fact is they never tell the world the whole story. The envy, jealousy and bitterness because said friend has a more fantastic lifestyle and said friend owns a yacht, a House, has a baby. The constant comparisons are damning. When you think about it logically, its fairly stupid, before the rise of consumerisation and Social Media, it was much harder to keep up with peoples lives, unless they were obviously a part of your life. Now its all shoved in our faces at the click of a button.
In an age where partners know all the characters of Game of Thrones but couldnt tell a single thing about the depths of their partners soul or what their likes, dislikes are, its very sad and obviously telling that its an inevtibility that break ups happen as well as marriages falling a part. 

These are all just Distractions. Distractions to life. 

I myself barely watch TV, Dont have Netflix, dont play games, and limit my time on screens. As I am a sensitive soul, too much TV drags me down and always has. I need to feel free and go out enjoy the fresh air and see the World.

The thing is I am much Happier for it. I dont condemn it all but I do feel people need to go back to zero. I feel people were a lot happier when they didnt have the constant headache of it all.

I spend quality time with people and I have a good circle of friends who do a myriad of activities and as we only have one life on this planet I would rather spend it wisely with those I love than waste it sitting in front of a screen.

Some days I want to be free and not bothered by all of it. I feel sometimes although I engage in Social Media and blog like this, I wonder what it would be like to join a commune and live a more simplistic life growing Veg..

…maybe just one day…. untill such time I will continue posting my thoughts on here


Gratitude list for goals, happiness and success 18/10/2016

Attitude is gratitude, every now and then its important to write down what you are thankful for and grateful for even when life throws you lemons, always stop and remember your role in the bigger picture. We can always be thankful for something.

1. I am grateful for the beautiful people that surround me

2. I am grateful for the kind love and support those people bring

3. I am grateful for the gift of laughter and being able to make people laugh

4. I am grateful for having a roof over my head

5. I am grateful for the trees and nature that surrounds me

6. I am grateful for happiness

7. I am grateful for the opportunities in my life

8. I am grateful for being able to work on amazing projects

9. I am grateful to be living

10. I am grateful for my personality

The Power of the Universe, law of attraction, manifestation, positivity and happiness

Happiness begins with you. If you dont like yourself you cant possibly make anyone else happy. 

This is such a true statement. I will admit I found it a difficult to begin with. Being negative and cynical was easy for me, but a series of events changed all this.

As soon as I dropped my attitude of negativity, positive things started to happen, this is from attracting money into my life, holidays and friends as well as situations.

The mind is a powerful tool and when we use it wisely we can create our own reality. When you vizualise in your minds eye your true hopes and desires, you are able to change your destiny by wishing for it and raising your vibration. 

We are vibrational beings, we all have energy, like attracts like, positivity attracts positivity. If you think negatively you will only ever attract negative things and people.

Its really strange sometimes when I wish for things and really think about it I am able to attract that specific thing.

I have found since I have raised my vibration as a being on this planet, the people that have surrounded me are good happy people who share the same sunny disposition as me.
Do I always think that unicorns crap out rainbows no, do I have negative feelings yes, I am only human, but being aware and being able to change those and turn negatives into positives is what helps me.

The universe will send you whatever you desire as long as it is for your greater good. This is the law of attraction. I was always a sceptical person whilst spiritual when I first heard of this I was like hmmmm.

My hairdresser told me how her friend manifested a job and a house within a year simply by looking at a picture board of her dream job and house every day. This was in london and I couldnt believe it.

After doing some research about the 12 laws of the Universe, everything made sense. 

Law of relativity- we are all given tasks and situations to learn lessons, once we have learned that lesson, the universe will stop testing you.

Everything in these universal laws made sense to me. 
I try and now live my life by it believeing that things happen for a reason, fate happens for a reason. 

The importance of staying positive when everything is negative is helpful.

So give it a go. What do you have to lose ?

Alcohol and its effect on Relationships, emotional abuse, personality changes, unhealthy patterns and brain changes

I am glad I come from a background where addiction isnt rife. A family ubringing that didnt include Alcoholism, however I am very lucky, for many others its the norm.

I dont drink. 1. For my Health, 2. I have watched a relationship, my own slide down the hill because of it.

I have endured emotional abuse because of it and I had to walk away.

It is so hard to watch someone fall down a rabbit hole that you care about. It is so hard to shut a door and watch through the key hole, knowing one day in the future you could learn their name in an obituary in some paper. You tried everything but you were met with aggression, a person who exeburated love now wants you dead, their enemy. I didnt cope with it well, I found it hard, it took a long time to realise it was the drink, I researched and was horrified. 
I saw the personality changes, the blame, hate and aggression I knew this was a world away from the person I knew. They may have been immature but they certainly thought the world of me and I of them.

I became an enemy because I pointed things out, I became an ememy because I was stong enough to point out their issues, whilst they were too weak to deal with them.

Lies, manipulation, slander all to hide their addiction.

Dettaching oneself from someone who has a myriad of issues including Addiction is hard. To learn to put a barrier up was the only thing I could do.

I myself have had to go through counselling to learn how to deal with it, I am glad I did, it also taught me about my own issues.

There is nothing you can do if someone wants to self destruct, if someone doesnt want to go and look at the root of their drinking. You should never be made to feel you are the cause. The main point to hit on, is this person had issues long before you walked through the door, there is nothing wrong with that, none of us are perfect, but its how you deal with them thats key.

I send this individual love and light but I wont be seeing them untill they aknowedge themselves, their issues and untill they realise their behavioural patterns, their influences of Alcohol and bad friends and untill they wake up and realise how much damage they have caused. Then and then only would I allow them to enter my life. I ofcourse still care but not at the detriment of my own happiness being destroyed.

Alcohol destroys relationships, love repairs them.

How Alcohol Changes Your Brain